For the first time in recorded history, the number of divorces in America are up to about 50% in some states. People who never married, secular talk show hosts/hostesses--are today's so-called marriage gurus, and professional counselors for married people. Most of them many-times divorced--give advice that they never used or kept, and we wonder why so many people end up divorced. Simple question: would you go on a flight with a pilot who who had many fatalities, or do a transatlantic crossing with a pilot who never flew an aircraft before--if you knew?
Before consulting a marriage counselor, gently inquire of the so-called guru: "How many times have you been married?" If the answer is "never" or "many times," then why take advice from someone who has perhaps only theoretical knowledge about such a complex issue, or who was not able to make a lasting relationship work?
Those are not my ideas; they are spiritually enshrined in the Torah (Ezekiel 44:22) and in the New Covenant (Jeremiah 31:31) affirmation called New Testament (1st Timothy Chapter 3.) In fact God was, and is so serious and particular about his agents, priests, that they had to be married first--to one person, and their marriage had to be successful. Their successful leadership in marriage is what enabled them to be selected as spiritual fathers of his flock. Those stipulations have not changed.
I spent years documenting the advice given by so-called marriage experts. Most are conflicting window-dressed clichés from failed marriage practitioners. Why is that so? The answer is that there must be a spiritual match for a relationship to be a lasting meshing of right spirits--the rediscovery of "the missing ribs," is mandatory.
Dates, temporary matches, social partnering-yes, but marriage experts no!
Most marriage experts can fix you up with a date; your high school friends can do that. They can find social partners. However, do not be fooled into believing that because someone is attractive, or "seems nice" or because he/she is emotionally, physically, and/or financially comfortable that such a person is capable of contributing to a long-term relationship. First of all, marriage is a spiritual union. It is the only union set apart for receiving blessings for propagating righteous seed potentially-- "for generations."
Deliberate release of the nuclei of life "semen," in any form, engenders the transfer of spirit-energy. Since the transfer of spirit-energy is governed by spiritual as opposed to man-made laws, there are blessings for proper dispensing, and punishments-known or unknown for dispensing same disobediently. Many "so-called incurable diseases" are spiritual seeds sown in disobedience to spiritual laws governing such.
PROBLEMATIC SEEDS
Most countries' legal systems stipulate that since marriages are contracts, they have to be registered. On the surface there should be no problem. Yet, for reasons too numerous to mention in this essay, religious institutions remained silent and allowed secular institutions to have the first and last say regarding one of its oldest sacraments. The courts on their own, in some cases have usurped the authority of religious institutions with regards to defining and quantifying what the requirements or prerequisites for marriages are.
SPIRITUAL PACKAGE. NOT OF CAESAR, BUT OF GOD!
Marriage is a sacred sacrament, and as a legal contract, it must be witnessed and vetted in a court of law or in the presence of a court officer. In its purest form, marriage is a "Sacred Sacrament" or spiritual covenant whose rules, eligibility, definition, and beneficiaries can be mandated by God's authorized agents only. If legal institutions decide that they can cross the divide between "church" and "state, " their laws can, if they so desire, allow courts to formulate and institute carnal unions. Religious institutions must understand that they must give to Caesar the things that are Caesar's and to God the things that are God's. There should be no blurring of spiritual lines.
COURTS CANNOT ADMINISTER SACRAMENTS
As soon as religious institutions began recognizing carnally instituted unions, by allowing them to be called "marriages" the presence of God diminished in those assemblies; miracles ceased, and instead of marriages being blessed unions, other types of unions surfaced. Contracts to live together till death were not worth the paper they were written on-- in some instances. Let us remember that God and His true blessed agents' establish marriage as a spiritual commitment between a male and female desirous of raising and caring for a family--till the death of either partner.
After all, churches, temples, and mosques decide who is eligible for Baptism-another sacrament. The state also works in concert with religious institutions in honoring and recording the recipients of the Baptismal sacraments. Why don't the courts jump into the Baptismal bandwagon? Simple: the devil knows that tots have at least 15 grace years of innocence.
Since sleeping religious elders allowed the courts to decide who or what constitute a marriage, the original sacrament with rules for avoiding spiritual viruses have given way to all types of teachers-not necessarily trained in understanding spiritual things. As a result, persons without understanding of spiritual matters will give advice on spiritual covenants --most times to the detriment of well-intentioned mates.
COMPOUNDING ERRORS
Besides the fact that weak custodians have diluted God's sacraments, secular marriage counselors are using the same system that has been wrecking marriages for the past century: selecting mates based on outward appearance and physical needs--only. Have you ever bought a vehicle based on the shape or looks of the body only?
I would never be presumptuous enough to categorize myself as a marriage expert. However I will make no bones about the fact that I am on a mission of spiritual restoration. I use radio, television and the print media to awaken people to the fact that Satan destroyed the first marriage on earth and to this day he is the best marriage destroyer. Since our personalities represent our spiritual make-ups, we need to match personalities first and foremost. An impatient and hoggish person is not going to change because he or she is outwardly attractive. Observe a person's behavior around children, around strangers, around elders, and how he or she behaves when the best made plans go sour.
I always advise people to note the person's family history. Look out for residual scars and unresolved conflicts--evidence of spiritually uncomfortable seeds. I use those analyzes to teach the types of spiritual seeds that destroy marriages. I also try to teach men how to find their missing ribs, and to teach women how to discern the types of ribs spiritually planted in them so that they may find their true soul mates. It is not a guessing game. Men who do not search spiritually behave like dogs searching for their elusive bones.
Humans are vehicles designed for carrying either a right spirit or contrary spirits-- "incompatible personalities." Wise people do not choose motor vehicles based on outward appearances alone: they want reliable electronics, engine and gear parts in working order. Why then do we want to select a lifetime vehicle based on carnal attributes only? We are playing Russian Roulette and eventually someone has to get hurt. Just maybe we have been using the wrong formula and following bad advice. Statistics might hint that we are following incongruent Pied Pipers.
