I can sit here spitting out statistics and try to convince you with facts about the status of divorce in the United States, but that won't get down to the root of the problem. Many couples will try their best to stay together, especially if there are kids involved, but they soon find out that being miserable all the time is no way to live.
In some cases, a divorce is the only option even if neither spouse wants to recognize it. But when the time comes to act, the woman is twice as likely to get the the head start. This is usually initiated by the fear of what will happen to her if she is left to fend for herself. Like it or not, most of the time women become comfortable in a marriage and tend to rely on there husbands more than they like. So when threatened to be pushed out into the world alone a sort of survival instinct kicks in. If you couple this with a rabid divorce attorney (who knows that representing the woman is usually the best position for them), then the man can easily find himself backed into a corner with no way out.
Remember something guys... The woman you our divorcing is not the same sweet, loving woman that you married! If you let her and her attorney take control of the situation, then you can be rest assured that you will get the raw end of the deal!
They will try to take everything that they can get their hands on. Your house, your money, your kids!!! And in the meantime they will try to get you to pay for everything, including all the court costs, and even your wife's attorney fees. Without being prepared, I can all but guarantee that they will be granted everything that they ask for.
This doesn't have to be the case! If the man reacts quickly and intelligently, he can greatly minimize the damage. But going out and getting the first divorce attorney you can find is NOT the answer, no matter how expensive and good they claim to be. Sure they will do everything that can to protect you, but remember the longer that battle goes on, the more money they make.
Here are a few questions that you need to consider before you hand over your future to a divorce attorney.
1) Do you know where to find out who is the best divorce attorney for you?
2) Do you know everything that you can do to protect your assets?
3) Do you know how to keep from get caught up in a long drawn-out legal mess that will end up costing you thousands?
4) Do you know how to best communicate with your kids about the divorce?
5) Do you know when you are truly ready to set foot in that courtroom?
At the risk of sounding pushy, if you can't answer these questions, then you have a lot of work to do and a very short time to do it in. My suggestion to you is to get on the ball as quickly as possible. The internet itself is probably the one greatest resource that you have at you disposal. Set aside some time to really get yourself prepared; otherwise you could easily end up like many other divorced men who are now living in an apartment, paying out more than half to their ex, and only getting to see their kids every other weekend.
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