By Toni Elizabeth Sar'h Petrinovich 
You most likely got married because you wanted to end your separation with the world and find oneness with another person, right? Did that happen? Most likely, not. Even in the most "perfect" marriages, the sense of separation usually exists.
Why is that so? That is the question. The answer is subtle and very real. The answer to this question is why you are thinking about leaving the person you promised to stay with for all of your days on earth. Your promise was real enough; it simply didn't hold over time.
The answer is: You feel separated from yourself. Yes, I know, the first response to that answer is "no, I don't". Think about it. How often do you pull away from the truth that you know is in you? How often do you hope that you are not seen by others? How glad are you that others cannot read your thoughts?
This is what I mean - you pull away from you because you already do not condone who or what you are so you hope others will not find out about you. You feel like you are impersonating yourself, that you did not ever really become who you believe you should be.
And who is this person that you believe you should be? It is the little child who was conditioned and programmed by your parents (usually well-meaning), by your schools, by your religion, your peer group, your friends, your extended family, and on and on and on. Whatever they appeared to want you to be, this you attempted to become until, finally, you arrive at the person you are today - you. Yet, that you is not who you thought you would be, is it? So you separate from yourself because you don't know who you are.
In most cases, this is the real reason for divorce. Yes, I know there are other causes as well, yet most dissolutions are foundationed in the lack of intimacy (and I don't mean sex) between the two of you because each of you hopes the other does not find out who you really are underneath the façade of the personality. The oneness that you were hoping to obtain by taking your marriage vows is an illusion built upon the transitory personality that you exhibit rather than the person you are in the very quiet of the night, in the dark. That is the person that your marriage partner can become one with once you decide that you will allow yourself to be seen by him or her.
It may be too late. The two of you may have done enough damage to the point of union that you call your married life that there is no turning back. And then again, maybe not. It is definitely only up to you and you alone to decide how much of an illusion you wish to keep living in rather than let yourself fall in love with you. Only then can you, once again, fall in love with your partner.
Toni Elizabeth Sar'h Petrinovich, Ph.D. is a visionary, weaver of grace, quantum physicist and multidimensional traveler. She is the owner of Sacred Spaces in the beautiful San Juan Islands off the coast of Washington State where she conducts personal sessions, retreats and etheric readings for all those drawn to the authentic Self. First and foremost, Toni challenges you to face the fears that are keeping you from living life. She is the author of The Call - Awakening the Angelic Human and its accompanying CD, DNA Re-Awakening. She does long distance healing, spiritual counseling, soul readings, light orb readings and chakra readings by appointment. For more information regarding Toni's work or to contact her by telephone or email, please see her websites: http://www.sacredspaceswa.com and http://www.angelichuman.com |  |
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